Marriage Doesn't Define Your Existence - Sister's
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Presently many single ladies are so troubled about marriage stagnancy
and due to over-age. It can be really burdensome, keep wondering and
thinking when the perfect will husband will emerge. Sometimes you find
yourself thinking for hours and later discovered that you achieved
nothing but instead of a wasted time.
Even when you decide not to focus on the issue of marriage, there are
people around you who have made it their duty to remind you of the
temporary trial you are experiencing. You seem to lost hope and not to
talk of having a fiancé. You may think you’re the only person going
through it but believe me, there are millions of single ladies around
the world seeking that partner of theirs.
But I know one thing for sure "Marriage doesn’t define your existence.” Marriage
doesn’t define your existence my beloved sisters, neither does it make
you who you are. It can only contribute to it positively or negatively
and that choice will be yours to make.
So, when it comes to marriage, you either get it right and for the right
reasons and also in the will of God, if not, it will be a battle you
will fight for the rest of your life. I have never seen anywhere in the
bible where it says that God will not bless you because you don’t have a
husband. I have never seen anywhere God said you are not good enough
because you are not married.
It is human being that often incurs such motives but not God. God is a
faithful and nothing transpired on earth without his awareness. My
sister, hear me audibly, you are a special creation of God, brought to
this earth to do marvelous things. God planted mighty things in your
life which will sprout a blessing to your generation. God did not say He will complete what He wants to do in your life when you get married. Nay!
Marriage cannot make you who you want to be, but you alone. You are the
only one that can decide how you want your life to be. People can only
make suggestions and help you to a certain level, but at the end of the
day, the ball is in your court. So who you are as an individual, does
not depend on who you marry but depends on you alone.
If you’re not a happy person now and you believe you’ll be happy once
you get married, I’m sorry to say but you’ll still be as miserable as
you are "now". I have seen so many people get married at the so called "right time" but right now are living the most miserable life.
They desire to be single once again and envy the ladies that are yet to
be married. It’s a big shame because i use to assume that a man without a
wife is incomplete, honestly that doctrine is from the pit of Hell.
Likewise also, I have always thought that when you get married, that is
the beginning of greater things to come but it is the opposite that is
happening. When you enter the institution of marriage for the wrong
reasons or for partially right reasons, then you get no results or
partial results.
If it is money, one day, that money will not yield it satisfaction it
once brought. If it is Beauty, that person will get all wrinkled or you
will always find someone who looks better. But if it is God ordained,
God will always renew and retied that chord of love that binds you
together.
People just feel they have the right to decide how your life should be
according to their myopic vision and the worst thing you can do to
yourself is listening, because you will be discouraged. Marriage is not
just the wedding ceremony but the seconds, days, months and years after
that. It's a forever thing. It is only death that can separate a husband
and wife, no matter what anyone says. So it's not something you go into
and say “I will work on it.”
You go into marriage with your eyes wide open, ears clear and your heart
lost in God. You don’t go into marriage just because of pressure or
what you can get out of it. You don’t go into marriage because you feel
you are getting old and that clock is ticking.
Probably your mother has been pressurizing you to get married or go have
kids. And whenever you behold other young girls that are married with
kids, you often compare yourself to them and say hurtful things.
My sister please wipes away your tears because marriage doesn’t define
your existence and very soon God shall surprise you and those people
ridiculing you won’t be with you in your husband house. They won’t share
the grief and the misery that awaits those who marry wrongly.
They won’t receive the blows and punches for you. All they will do is
laugh at you when it goes wrong and say I told you so. It is hard I know
and it may seem like there is no hope but you can’t give up now when
you're just about to receive from God. I know it seems so bleak but when
it seems the bleakest is when God is about to surprise you.
You just need to push yourself a little bit more and trust God. Don’t
rush into marriage with a deficit that will deduct from your life until
you are no more. Presently, many people are in Hell not because they
wanted to end up there but because they married wrongly, so be patient
because marriage doesn’t define who you are!
